"Stress from heartbreak grief can flood the body with hormones, specifically Cortisol, which causes that heavy-achy-feeling you get in your chest area."
10 Steps to Self Care
1. If it feels wrong, don’t do it.
2. Say “exactly” what you mean.
3. Don’t be a people pleaser.
4. Trust your instincts.
5. Never speak badly about yourself.
6. Never give up on your dreams.
7. Don’t be afraid to say “no”.
8. Don’t be afraid to say “yes”.
9. Resist the need to always have control.
10. Stay away from drama and negativity – as much as possible.
Source: Lessons Learned in Life
How to Become more Open to Life
1. Judge less; accept more. (This relates both to ourselves and others)
2. Be flexible when you’re setting your goals; be open to changing in unexpected ways.
3. Be aware of your automatic reactions and defensive mechanisms. Although they often serve you well – they can trip you up as well.
4. Have an open mind; be willing to listen and consider viewpoints that are different from your own.
5. Work to manage and overcome your fears – as these close us off from life and endless possibilities.
6. Let go of the need to control everything.
So many of us take these games for granted that we don’t even recognize them for what they are.
1. The Pretender: This happens at the start of many relationships. Whether from nervousness or from insecurity, this is the person who tries to be someone else to gain the attention of the other person.
2. Trick or Treat: Examples of this include… Trying to make your partner jealous so that they see how much you’re loved by others … or … Telling three different people that each is your best friend”.
3. The Little White Lie: Examples include … “oh, it’s not that important; it doesn’t really matter.” <sigh> … or … “What she doesn’t know won’t hurt her.”
4. The Guilt Trip: Some people are totally committed to making you feel terrible about a past mistake. There’s no way you can ever put things right.
5. Payback: “You hurt me, so I’ll hurt you.” This is a vicious game that can go on for years.
6. The Name Game: This is basically being dishonest. For example, “It’s not really cheating because I never said I was going steady.” Oh, really.
7. A relationship with a price-tag. This is where, for example, a girl thinks she has to have sex to be loved.
8. The Rumour Mill: For example, “Did you know that Jordan told me that Alana told her that Brad told Chris that…” Nothing is more damaging to relationships than this.
"Cuddling before bed puts the mind at ease, making it easier to fall asleep, slightly more effective than sleeping pills."
10 Ways To Show Someone That You Care
1. Help them out with something. The easiest way to show somebody that you care about them is to help them out with something. If they bring up a problem that they are facing, you could try being there to listen or talk to them. If they say they have homework, job, or test that they have to do or prepare for, you could ask them if they’d need any hand. Hopefully, they’ll say yes. If they say no, try helping them another way. For example, offering to drive them to work or school or get them groceries.
2. Ask about their day. Drop by to say ‘hello,’ leave a message in their email, Facebook, or phone. Ask how they are doing and what their plans are for the day etc? If they say ‘no plans’ ask if they’d like to go eat or do something later in the evening. If they say they have a plan, ask what the plan is and if you could tag along.
3. Remember Important Days. For example, remember your anniversaries, the birth dates or their graduation date. If they say they have an exam coming up on this day, try to offer assistance or be really quiet when they are studying. By paying attention to days that are important to them will show that you care.
"Find someone who makes you realize three things: one, that home is not a place, but a feeling. Two, that time is not measured by a clock, but by moments. And three, that heartbeats are not heard, but felt and shared."